You know, I’ve had a lot of ridiculous asks in my time on tumblr but I think this one wins.
No, I do not hate men in general. I’m straight so I do, literally, love men. I have a brother and a father whom I adore. I have great male friends. I. love. men.
But I hate the system in which we live in.
A system which tells boys that they’re superior than girls with terms like ‘man up’ or ‘don’t be a girl’. A system which sympathises with rapists and mourns their ‘promising futures’ as football players. A system which would rather say that a man is mentally ill in excuse for him killing 6 because he wasn’t given sex. A system which consistently, day after day, endorses these words as a response to a women getting raped: “well, she was asking for it”, or “she probably provoked him.” A system which tells boys that its okay to catcall from cars - it’s a ‘compliment’ for those women. A system where legislators - LEGISLATORS - say the phrase: “that victims of “legitimate rape” rarely get pregnant, because “the female body has ways to try to shut that whole thing down." Or what about a system which has a political party that pushes 700 proposed laws that regulate womens bodies?
But hey, I live in Australia, so why am I using American examples? Okay, our Prime Minister said that "Abortion is the easy way out". He also said: “I think it would be folly to expect that women will ever dominate or even approach equal representation in a large number of areas simply because their aptitudes, abilities and interests are different for physiological reasons”. Yep - he really said that shit. And he’s now Minister for Women, along with being Prime Minister. If you want an overview of how fucking shitty and patriarchal the system is that we live in, watch this video of former Prime Minister Julia Gillard destroying Tony Abbott. It’s pretty much an overview of how difficult it is to be a woman in a position of power - not because your opponent is a misogynistic shit stain, but because the media will consistently label you a bitch, and hysterical when she is assertive or gives a speech like the one linked. But if a man had the same passion in a speech? It would be labeled ‘powerful’, it would be ‘moving’ and it would be ‘passionate’.
I hate the system of patriarchal dominance that we live in. Yes, those are two scary words and when I first heard them, I thought it was an overreaction. But it’s not. Because little boys are told that if they wear dresses or like the colour pink, they’re gay. Because men are consistently conditioned to not show emotion, because that’s too feminine, or to never cry, because god forbid a male with an actual penis cries. Because the strict confines of masculinity and gender roles is killing mens confidence, empathy and humanity.
I have been sexually harassed since the age of 11. I have been groped on trains, and been told by my boss when a 85 year old man told me that I had a ‘nice chest’ that maybe I should stop wearing revealing shirts to work and I won’t get those ‘compliments’. When men would yell from a car while I was walking my dogs to ‘show me your tits’, or when men would ask a thirteen year old me in a bikini to pull up my top, I thought it was a compliment. ‘Oh, men are paying attention to me - they’re complimenting my body and that must mean I have some worth’. That is literally what I actually thought when men would harass me. But that’s not the truth - the truth is that girls do not deserve that harassment. Boys do not deserve that harassment. No one does. And they certainly do not deserve to be treated like meat in a butchers shop.
I am seventeen now, and I’m a feminist. Yep, I’m a feminist - I know that’ll ‘scare a lot of guys off’ as one of my friends put it, but fuck it I want social, political and economic equality of the sexes. I’m seventeen, and for the first time in my life, I am comfortable enough to criticise terms like ‘boys will be boys’ or rape culture or the constant bullshit women are expected to swallow. I’m seventeen, and when I walk to my car at night, I have to hold my keys in my hands - ‘just in case’. I’m seventeen, and I understand that we live in a society that inherently breeds the view that men are superior and women are inferior.
I don’t think this is a rude ask, and I’m sorry if this answer will offend you, because that certainly wasn’t my intent - I’m sure you were just curious as to why I say the things I say. I don’t hate men. I love men. But I shouldn’t have to make this clarification when I speak out on how damaging terms like ‘boys will be boys’ are. Because no, ‘boys will be boys’ is not an excuse to make comments on women’s breasts, or to catcall from a car, or to rape someone.